Attitude Is Everything

                                 Jeff  Kellar

Before starting today’s blog I want you to keep your breathe upto last because here is something very important thing to be explained, ATTITUDE.

What attitude actually is? Is it that what we see in songs and music videos where hero is everything? Absolutely NO, this is all fake. In real life Attitude is something different, so let’s witness meaning of attitude in a new way.

Attitude is like the window of our house through which we see the world. When the window is clear the outside world also appeared to be clear but the same world looks to be dirty or bad or ugly through the dirty window. This is same in case with our attitude, with positive attitude we everything looks better but with negative attitude the same thing looks against us. Let’s understand it using an example – when a little baby falls during his learning period of walking; no but instead he rises up again with a cute smile on his face and try it again but why when we grow up and falls start to blame others sometimes, why we think that everyone were against us altough they often support us. Have you remembered people around you usually laughed during your childhood fall.

The people with positive Attitude say I can do it but with negative attitude you say this is impossible or I am not capable of doing this.

The person with the negative attitude dwells on problems.

The person with the positive attitude concentrates on solutions.

The person with the negative attitude finds fault with others.

The person with the positive attitude looks for the good in others.

The person with the negative attitude focuses on what’s missing.

The person with the positive attitude counts his or her blessings.

The person with the negative attitude sees limitations.

The person with the positive attitude sees possibilities

  I think now you have a better understanding of attitude. so decide what type of man you are in actual.

But the attitude can be changed, below have some factors.

1.      Subconscious or our thoughts- thoughts ,well have you ever noticed that when you are in a negative person contact we often listen ‘ I can’t do it, this is impossible, this one is so hard you can’t do it’. All these things are because of negative attitude. Well, if you have these negative thoughts in your mind the best way to have them away is imagination which is really a helpful tool to change our thoughts.

   Experiment-  ok try to do what I say to you. Think of an elephant, now make it pink. Have you done this , now take an another tougher exercise think of yourself in a race where you are ahead of all other, now you are waying ahead the end line is some steps away from you and you have done this both of your hand is in the air and you are feeling marvelous. Have you done the last exercise successfully, I thing you have well imagined both these things. So what now you have a licence to thing according to your will. Go and have every positive thoughts fitted in your mind.

2.      Influence of positive – positive attitude man saw all things with different angle which ultimately make them cheerful or feel more happy. Try to have the company of these people and just reject the company of negative attitude man. If possible write as many positive thoughts as you can around you. Try creating a positive environment around you whatever it takes.

3.      Your words matters – have you ever thought of any impact of words on our attitude. Well I have an activity for you just do this and decide by your own.

Activity- when people asked yourself how are you Or how you are feeling, just try to reply first positively and then at other day with negative words like I am feeling sick. I know most of you have done this before also and for sure your mood have the same response as per your words. I mean to say you feel bad as you reply negatively and good when you reply positively. So the next time when someone asked you how are you? Just say terrifically good or in my own words DHAANSHU, you will feel the same.

So now tell me how you are feeling?

Have I listened DHAANSHU.

4.      Don’t feel unfortunate – sometime, in our life situations come when we feel now nothing is left and it it because of my misfortune but sometime in this situation you saw someone who is there in worse situation than you and still working to come out of it with as many efforts as he can introduce. How actually we react after seeing this situation, definitely we will gather all our hopes and will work with our full potential. Do’t say I am from middle class, I am not rich, I have not get the good marks etc. Just stop it, you are the most fortunate try to find the positive and you will analyse how fortunate you are. I will make some of the counting – you have the smartphone in which you are reading my blog and certainly an internet connection. It  means you are among that population who have that luxary and you are not among those areas who have not that connection. Take the situation of natural calamities and you are really very fortunate that at present you are not among the 20 million victims of floods in bihar and assam. This is not the end of the list but there are many areas where you are fortunate over others but we always remain busy in counting where we are unfortunate. We have to be fortunate that we are not fortunate everywhere and our life is going by some of our efforts and not because of fortune. So the next time say I am the most fortunate man in the world and you will certainly foud a significant positive change in your attitude.

5.      The last key-Action – altough, changing our thinking and mindset is the beginning part of Attitude changing but without actions it is very difficult to continue this Attitude you want to make. But taking actions is not as easy as I have wrote it . what make us not to take any action is the fear of failure. The fear of failing on the stage , the fear of losing the match, the fear of loosing the job etc. In fact, we are nourished in a manner that we fear of all these things. And you know what we will do, we start sharing our failure associating it with our misfortune to others. But believe me 90% of the people you share these problems will not consider it and the rest 10% will feel happy after listening about your failure. And earlier I too was among the last 10%. So what to do in that situations. Just chill out, do not pressurize your failure on you and use the power of small actions because you have not to start big but you have to start small for a big. As an experiment just choose a small book like this one to read then read only the introduction on the first day. And on the second day start fresh with a new chapter making in your mind just to read one page then as your intrest will mount on you will read the next and then next and one day you found that I have read the full book.

So these are some of the magical things from the great book ‘Attitude Is Everything’ by jeff Kellar. The best thing with that book is that it has only 125 pages worth redable. So if you have not yet started any book to read this can be the best option to start.

“Loosing is an option but not quitting – make an attitude like this”