An Antidote To A Dot Of Dissatisfaction

Hope you all are fine and going good in the quarantine. I have something to share with you and it is not in any way  related to the nCoronaVirus. The blog idea come in my mind recently when some 7 days before I was reading my old blogs. Actually while reading I feel disappointed with some of the blogs although at the time of publishing they are the favourites. And that raises a question in my mind that why our mind see same  things differently in different times and situations. And as I go deeper in this stupid looking topic, I discovered some deep sense. Well, the core feeling behind this behavior is Dissatisfaction. And we are going to discuss about the same in this blog.

What Dissatisfaction Really Is?

Dissatisfaction is  feeling that make us to feel that things are not as they should be. That we are not successful enough or our personality is not good enough. That we don’t have enough friends, good social contacts, good academic records, good job, good home…… And these feeling make us to look outside with envy and inside with dissatisfaction.

Factors-

Although, dissatisfaction is a core feeling like love, happiness or sadness but there are factors that are making this feeling chronic and a problem for us. Among all the major players that stimulates this feeling in us are social media, pop culture, advertisement and sometime motivational products like self-help books, speeches of self-help gurus. These factors make us to think that anything less than your dream job is a failure. These factors crave us unnecessarily for great experiences in life, good job, better personality, good social circle, money so on and so forth.  I am not saying that craving for these things is a bad thing but thinking them as the necessity is wrong and can cause us with a continuous negative feeling of dissatisfaction.

Gratitude  An Antidote-

But there is a big question that why some people are more satisfied and more happier than others? Is there any antidote to this feeling? And the answer is Yes. It is Gratitude.

You will feel difficult to understand Gratitude first but like me if you  put a pause on all the questions going in your mind for some time then you will certainly get the idea. Gratitude is a feeling of greatfulness for yourself. This feeling can arise in us for anything; even we can feel grateful for a good  weather or by helping someone or for by completing a task. And it depends on your biology that at what extent and what thing is going to make you grateful. Let’s take an example to better understand it. Someone make your task easy by helping you make you grateful for him or her and that gratefulness feeling will motivate you to do good for that man or woman back. This is similar to, you going to feel grateful after reading this blog and showing that gratefulness in the comment section by saying thanks. This is already embaded in our biology. And in fact it is this gratitude that bring us closer in a society and motivate us to work for each other. This gratefulness feeling ignite many other good feeling in our mind and we further feel happy and satisfied. In opposite, dissatisfaction will ignite many other negative memories in our mind and make us further unhappy and sad. So gratitude is an antidote to the dissatisfaction and it is crystal clear. But gratitude is not only a product of exchange but it is something more than that. We can feel grateful for even a very small thing which have no meaning to  us, like a smile on a little baby’s  face can make our day. Even sunshine ,good meal can give us that feeling when we are denied for them for a long period; like we can feel grateful in traveling a DTC bus after lockdown will be over which was earlier not a nice feeling (especially for me). So in a nutshell, gratitude refocuses our attention towards the good things (even small)  you have and the consequences of this shift are better feelings and more positive experiences.

How To Practice Gratitude-

Like many other things gratitude too has its own traits. It depends on our genes, culture and personality how much we can feel grateful towards others. Although there are ways that can increase our gratitude trait but it is difficult to say what practice is going to enhance our trait and at what extend as all of us are biologically different. But out of all, the one certain way that can help us increase our Gratitude Practice is Gratitude Journalling. Give at least 5 minutes to you in a day and write down some things for which you can really feel grateful, and then you can see the difference in your dissatisfaction. Well, I have a separate dedicated blog for the journalling and its benefit so you can go to it for a better understanding.

The Conclusive Words –

In fact, there are no magic pills for happiness. Life is complicated. On some day you feel in control of yourself and in other time you feel out of control. And this is completely OK. In fact running for happiness can sometime make  us more unhappy if we put more pressure on ourself. Having sunny days all the year is difficult in the same way having been happy all the time too is never possible and being Dissatisfied must not be seen as the tragedy always, and it is completely OK to being dissatisfied for some time.

Let everything Happen to you

happiness or sadness

just keep going

no feeling is Final

Note- This blog is a work of the results from various websites and videos and yes my own opinions. Share this blog if you feel it as  genuine explanation and share gratitude too with it. This will give gratitude to me too…..ah views too. So Share. 
I am Mentor Yogi and hope to meet you in the next blog. Goodbye